Valentine's day...

I don’t need to tell you that it is Valentine’s Day next weekend. This can be a fun time for those of us with partners, as long as nothing goes wrong! Yet it can be a very depressing time for those of us who don’t have one.

Home alone?

I mentioned last week that it is not necessary to have one particular person to share your love with. If you are alone this Valentine’s Day, don’t fret, loads of us are. I am staying in and watching TV whilst my daughter cooks a meal for her boyfriend of one year. This is great except she that she is 12!! How funny is that! Anyway, it is OKAY to be alone. Sometimes it is important to spend time without romantic attachments so that we can consolidate, do some growing, and then go out and find someone appropriate to the person we have become. If you are going through one of these times use this Saturday to focus on all the love you have had from romantic partnerships even if they were not perfect.

What you focus on grows!

By focussing on what was great we can all generate more of that good thing. So try not to feel unhappy at not having someone. If you want someone and it is not happening, spend time finding out what it is you might change so that you can get closer to what it is you really want. Sometimes it is just a question of giving yourself the chance to get it!

Let them know how special they are!

Make sure you do something to communicate how special your partner is to you. That may just mean not getting upset that what they organised for you or gave you wasn’t exactly what you wanted. There is so much pressure on this one day, just remember that your relationship happens every day of the year, not just this weekend. You can get a lot of pleasure from giving as well as receiving, as long as you do not make a rule that you get exactly what you consider to be ‘equal’ in return.

Meaningful gestures!

Sometimes there is more meaning in the things that do not cost money. Perhaps it is a question of writing down what that person really means to you in a love letter, or giving something with emotional significance to remind them of a particular time. Sometimes it is what that thing symbolises that gives true pleasure to those we love. Loving doesn’t have to cost hard cash to be real.

Whatever you do, and whoever you are with, start preparing to have a lovely day!

Remember, don’t spend this day alone..

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